SINGLE CHILD STRUGGLE

  HI ALL

For all those Mommys over there......

Parenting in general is a wonderful yet huge responsibility for anyone.When it comes to "Single child",it is a real challenge..Though the option has become quite common.Parenting is glorious, purposeful but at times tedious...Lesser the number doesn't truly mean lesser the responsibility.Infact I would say it's more intense and elaborate...atleast till the child becomes independent.Without complaining we could actually try taking it light and perhaps do we'll

Well,I am too a Mommy of a single child.You would have become a Mommy with a single child due to various constraints and reasons.I don't wanna preach here but would love to share and help u out with what I believe,do and in fact what works out for me.Not forgetting the fact that we get umpteen number of advices flowing from all around at times carelessly rendered and confusing...

Common problems both on parent's and children's side would widely be with a single child

*Naughtiness/Hyperactiveness

*Laziness

*Disobedience or back answering

*Disrespect

*Lack of understanding or analysing people

*Rarely arrogance,adamence

*Not with an attitude to share *Not empathetic or even able understand other/elders perspective

*Stays pampered in cases

*Have trouble spending their leisure time 

*Either are too talkative or reserved

*Exhibit possessiveness with people and things

*Less sportsmanship

*Lack of sibling support or scarce friendship

*Get easily obsessed with gadgets or social media or may be Television

*Problem in expression of thought, either introvert or extrovert, even they don't convey their health issues properly

*At times find very tough to handle things even petite things due to the attention given to them

*Being a bit self centric

*Fear facing society and settling with new family atmospheres when demand arise

*Expect an extra dash of privacy even with parents and at home.

*Feel left out when parents get busy

*Feeling a bit of solitude at times if not getting engaged

*Low in spirits when finding siblings of schoolmates.

Well the list would keep on extending, yet never to blame the kids we make.All the above or a few of the above or even even more would or wouldn't exist in every child.....that's absolutely fine.As you would all know what the answer would be,it is only MOTHER FACTOR WITH UNCONDITIONAL LOVE OR PERHAPS A FATHER IN MANY CASES ....without a mentor like, tailor made attitude.I,on my side would luv sharing my style to deal with a few of these......accepting the fact every child is physically or mentally different....It perfectly easy to preach let me share what I PRACTICE

Disclaimer:

Never to promise to be working for absolutely busy parents dumped with work and money alone,.....these would work only for. those who have few hours for their beloved children which is real quality time

1.Naughtiness-Inquisiteness and naughtiness is an integrate part of a child.Girl or boy,a single child is always believed to be full of tantrums though necessarily need not be.I have a super Hyper daughter who drives me crazy.....Yet when a toddler many Mommy may get naturally to fix it, when he or she changes into a blooming child if it subsides fine, if not, well I engage my child giving her a skilful thing or project she gets acquainted with a bit of calming rthymic music which is quite sloppy reducing her irritability too...I even perhaps cut down her caffeine and coco intake slightly....It has worked amazingly many a times

2.Laziness-Keeping the Child's mind busy with freaky schedules moduled by her itself I ask her to plan her lazy day making it atleast very little productive for her...Not actually leaving her with her gadgets left all alone in a room.Never get them fresh with a chocolate or cocoa drink or highly sugary dessert.......That practice absolutely hard to remove from their minds

3.Disrespect-I set the first example for my daughter to be respectful to all elders no matter whatever they might be......she'z immune to that.....Try it out as soon ur child grows....On the top of it I show good movies for her with comical yet ethic filled scenes inserted in between

4.Back answering is one single thing still well all of us are struggling to come out.The prime solution you could execute when u think ur child gets to understand petite things, try telling her/hem that it was always fine for him/her to have an opinion but in case he doesn't't agree with those at home he could very well convey but with respect, politeness.Still if the child's opinion is difficult to accept could convince him/her for the time being and later explain things in ways the child could understand.This will leave a strong signal to the child to exhibit both inside and outside the family that from his/her young age he/she could have a opinion only that it has to be worded and addressessed in the right way.The child grows way matured without losing it's childishness paving a fine path when the child grows into an adult..

 5.Analysing people, though it doesn't have much to do with a child yet in today's world it's apt that the child knows to study people so that they could keep save at schooling,neighbourhood and elsewhere....Toon characteristics with different characterisations could be an excellent tip for them to get exposed to.Well a subtle contact with relatives would help a little, because neighbourhoods sometimes might not be quite possible for kids....

6.ADAMENCE AND ARROGANCE are an intrinsic part of children always especially in single kids' generic mindset develops in the child when we parents show very less of it at home, in the child's vicinity paralleling teaching them simple ways of getting things down requesting at times convincing others.

7.SHARE-Child's Resistance towards sharing is quite a common thing that everybody threatened me when I DECIDED and had, have.......a  single child.I pretty much symbolically started to convey this to my child right when she was at kindergarten so that she started to remind me to do when she sees somebody needs help and it was not an extreme philanthropic deed to do small deeds that help people.....

8.Pampering the child never helps it or rather the parent who takes care of the child.So it's only upto the family, including the grand parents who may at times be along with the  child.Indicate the child verbally or through your actions that he would not be pampered and spoiled.

Keep up the wait I shall continue to elaborate in my next blog. Parenting is really an art......

By

Jane Fernandez